How My Girls And I Are Spending Galentine's Day Wearing Thrifted Goodwill® Looks

Happy Galentine’s Day! Yes, it’s a real thing. Tomorrow all the love birds can celebrate their partner for Valentine’s Day, but what about celebrating your best girlfriends?! My girls and I have hectic schedules, but we made sure to have a girls day to remind ourselves of the love surrounding us regardless of our relationship statuses. We partnered with Goodwill to shop looks for less because we love to step out in style when we’re together.


We’re all different sizes and although we all love fashion we have different styles, so I was nervous everyone may not find something they loved— but we did! Goodwill offered a range of styles and sizes in all the locations we stopped by. We’re located all over the tri-state so we had separate experiences, but all great ones!

On her shopping experience Tolani said, “Often times I overlook thrift stores when I’m looking for a cute outfit on a budget, but to my surprise I actually found amazing quality items that I loved.Marshea agreed adding, “To be able to walk into Goodwill and find brands I love like Zara and Shop Akira for a lower price was priceless!”


Tolani and I both rocked thrifted jumpsuits and added our own flair, while Marshea slipped on a cute sweater dress she found at her local Goodwill. A few accessories and we were ready to celebrate our Galentine’s Day together.

If you’re looking for a last minute outfit to celebrate with your girls head to your nearest Goodwill. You don’t always have to break the bank and splurge for cute pieces. In addition to finding looks that fit your style for a low price, you’re helping your community. 87 cents on every dollar spent at their stores is used to create job training opportunities and employment in the community, which is super important with our current government.

Helping the community and finding affordable quality pieces?! What’s not to love!

This post is sponsored by Goodwill Industries International.

This post is sponsored by Goodwill Industries International.

Photos by Nigil Crawford

Asia Milia x Halle Deneen: How To Kill The Winter/ Holiday Trends If You Have Curves

If you’re a curvy girl who stans over trends season after season, but can never seem to find a way to rock it yourself we get you! Halle Deneen and I collaborated on a super fun look book to bring you looks for the winter and holiday time. Get into it below!

Fur — Who doesn’t love a good fur look? Rock it with an oversized look or a sultry lace and leather look!

  • Plaid made a comeback this year, so we tried our hand at the trend! Halle added her flair to a plaid scarf and accessorized with a super cute beret and I kept it chic in a tweed Zara blazer.


There's a fine line between oversized and sloppy when you’re curvy, you have to be extremely strategic. Halle and I were on the same page with wide leg pants — they’re a thick girls’s dream! Especially when you cinch the waist with a look like Halle’s!


Happy Holidays! We closed out our look book with fun beaded and sequins looks for the exciting season. Whether you’re celebrating with friends, family, or anyone special in your life— enjoy it and get ready for the 2019 level up! Thanks for tuning in. This is only the beginning of this killer duo!

Xo, Asia Milia + Halle Deneen!


Photos Courtesy of Nigil Crawford

7 Thigh Highs Boots That Actually Work For Thick Thighs

We all know #ThickThighsSaveLives right? Kind of. Everyone wants to be thick until they can’t step out in a hot pair of thigh highs for the fall and winter. I’ve searched for YEARS for a pair that were equally comfortable and fitting for my calves and thighs, and I finally found a pair this year. Last year I purchased 2 solid color thigh highs from Aldo, but I wasn’t exactly a fan of how the elastic material hugged my thighs. I know I’m not alone in this search, so I wanted to help some of you ladies out! Here are 7 thigh high boots that will actually fit you if you are thicker than a snicker!


I found these at Twelve AM Co., a woman and black-owned business based out of LA. What I love most about them is that they are flattering, a lot thigh highs that “fit” aren’t always flattering. It’s not cute when a boot is suffocating the leg, but these have an open back and the heel is comfortable. They’re sold out where I purchased them, but I’m searching for a similar pair to share with you ladies. I’ll update as soon as I find them.


If you didn’t know, Jennifer Le not only designs dope furs, but she also designs footwear that’ll give you all the shoegasms! Her gold studded 2BD X CAIMAN thigh high boots are wide calf-friendly and are dually stylish. Retailing at $449, they are a bit pricey but definitely worth the splurge if you have the coins or want to treat yourself. The lambskin leather lined boots are also top quality, so they’re an investment that could live in your closet for years.


LaQuan Smith is one of my favorite designers – I’m bias because he’s from Queens like me, but he’s a humble designer and knows how to throw what has become my favorite show during New York Fashion Week. His designs are beloved by celebs including Beyoncé, Cardi B, Kim Kardashian, and more. Last month his LaQuan Smith x ASOS collection launched on featuring plaids, his signature sheer designs, camo, and loads of other prints. One of the camo pieces included in the capsule were these padded camo thigh-highs. The laces allow you to open up the boot a bit wider to fit any size legs. These are so bomb!


I’m always here for a slouchy boot! Something about these remind me of the signature Y Project oversized boots, but these are by Public Desire. If you don’t want to break the bank too much, but still want a stylish boot this is perfect. The slouchy design is also more flattering for a bigger thigh. They’re available on ASOS.


Aldo can be a hit or miss when finding the right style that will go past the ankle. I purchased 2 pair of thigh-highs from them last season and although they fit and were comfortable, it looked like my thighs were suffocating depending on what I paired them with. This season their Fraresa boot is all the rave if you don’t have a size 2 calf and thigh, and they’re on sale here!


If you’re not into wearing heels then there are always thigh high flats. Stuart Weiztman is known for their signature over-the-knee suede boot in multiple colors. The design has been copied and remade by many, but the original boot has a stretch made for thighs thick in size! This boot is a super splurge, but the style can be found at almost any store with shoes from DSW to Bloomingdales!


Another flat boot! Zara is my go-to store for most of my clothes, but they also have some bomb shoes. These studded babies are perfect a flat thigh high for work or a casual day. They are super stretchy (I tested them in store) and can be paired with almost anything. Shop for them here!

Winter Workplace Style Guide: Coats, Turtlenecks, and More!

Hey girl, hey! New York’s temperatures have been extremely cold lately, it’s almost like we skipped fall. While I was looking forward to rocking my fall faves Mother Nature said, “Nah.” But, it’s all good because I love winter fashion, too!

In celebration of Tyler Perry’s, Nobody’s Fool featuring Tiffany Haddish, Omari Hardwick, Tika Sumpter, and Whoopie Goldberg I’ve partnered with Paramount Pictures to bring you a Winter Workplace Style Guide in honor of Sumpter’s boss babe character. The film touches on two strong black female’s who are teaching each other how to navigate love, family, sisterhood, and the workplace — sounds a lot like my best friends and I!

See some of my style hacks to rock a corporate chic look during the winter below.


I live for a good coat, and if it’s belted you can automatically throw it in the bag for me! I prefer to rock pants, but in some office cultures skirts and dresses are a necessity. No problem—make it fun! This pinstripe number has a funky asymmetrical design and it has a matching blazer to rock in the office. Long wool coats are key to having your legs out in the winter because it keeps those thighs warm. See some cute coats below from Zara, H&M, Bloomingdales, ASOS, and Rent the Runway.


Turtlenecks should be your best friend in the winter! Not only do they keep you warm, but they allow you to wear summer pieces like this houndstooth dress and transform it to a winter vest. You can take your favorite strapless dress or tank top and wear a turtle neck under it to jazz up your office style. If it’s extra cold slip on your favorite pair of trousers for the ultimate boss babe look!


I’m clearly a wide leg pants stan! They work for my body, which is key especially when you’re in the workplace. Everyone’s office culture is different, but the more professional you keep your attire the better; part of this is knowing what fits your body properly. During the snowier months, I like to wear slim ankle pants because they can be stuffed into boots and they don’t carry the snow with them like palazzo pants. Here’s a variety of pants that could work with a pump or a bootie in the winter to keep your feet warm. Don’t be afraid to play with a printed pant, pair it with a matching or solid blazer to strut your style in the office.

Pants pictured from (Left to right): ASOS, New York & Company, Zara, Zara, Express

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Last, but definitely not least I would never leave fur out the equation of a winter style guide! Whether you want to rock a fur stole over your work suit, slip a fur coat on top of your frock, or wear a cozy knit with fur in the office it can add a statement to any look.

I can’t wait to see the bomb looks that the cast of Nobody’s Fool will be wearing! Want to catch a screening of the movie in NYC this weekend with me?! Get your passes here.

This post was sponsored by Paramount Pictures

*Photos by Nigil Crawford and Jennelle Gordon

Unlocking the Level Up: Take the Leap and Keep the Faith

Today I have an image so clear in my head. It’s from my 2014 Mexico Spring Break trip, I was at an excursion park hundreds of feet in the air looking down into the jungle scared to zip line across to the other side. I stood there in fear and watched my friends go, I watched other vacationers go, and the workers started to get a little frustrated with me. I kept saying to myself, “Just jump, you’re going to be fine.” Every time I neared the edge I grew more and more fearful and I looked over at my guides name tag and his name was Jesus. I swore up and down that was a sign that God was with me and I would be just fine. I closed my eyes and I just did it, with my adrenaline bursting in flames.


Today I feel that same weird feeling I felt on that cliff again. I’m days away from taking a huge jump and I can’t help but reminisce on the alarming, yet exhilarating emotions that took over me. Of course a literal zip line jump and taking leaps in life are different, but they do correlate. That adrenaline feeling of joy that followed that jump was exciting, but I only got there because I put my fear aside.


Having a lot of faith is playing a big part in this new journey for me, I’m trusting in God that my next level is beyond what my mind can conceive. After much back and forth I know that when I place my faith over my fears that new level will be revealed. Level up UNLOCKED, because there is another level with your name on it.


In life whether it be a relationship, a job, or just a life experience sometimes we have to let go to experience the joy we deserve. The feeling before the jump is full of weird and uncomfortable emotions, but how will you ever reach your full potential or get what you deserve if you stick to what’s comfortable?


See that joy on her face? (Kind of!) I would’ve never known it if I didn’t jump. Sometimes if we don’t leap we stay stuck which leaves no room for growth, and THAT is something I absolutely cannot do. So as scary as it may feel, it’s time for me to jump and I promise to bring you guys along for the ride.

In the photos I am wearing an old biker jacket from H&M (Similar), Get Choosy shorts, Miu Miu shades, Steve Madden sandals, and a Fendi bag.

Welcoming Quarter 4 of 2018: Don't Wait Until January Work Towards Your 2019

Happy Monday! I know it’s been a while, but that’s about to change really soon as October will be an extremely life changing month for me (stay tuned for more). Not only is it a new fresh start to a week, but it’s a new month–October.


As we enter October it’s such a pivotal time because it is the final quarter of the year. The last 3 months to perform at your highest level possible. It’s common to get excited about the holidays, chillier weather, etc. when this time comes around. It’s easy to opt to drop the ball on everything because you know that January 1st will allow you to press reset. My question is why wait? Why not prepare now so your fire is burning even hotter when 2019 hits?


The key word in that statement is that it’s “common” for people to do that, meaning it’s typical. Following that mindset will land you with that familiar pattern of waiting until the new year, but if you’re really dedicated to leveling up in this next season then you need to plan now.

One of my favorite quotes is, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Planning is so essential to goal setting because it is the starting foundation. Write it down, reach out to your resources. Use this quarter to set a plan so thorough that when 2019 hits you’ll be ten steps ahead of everyone else.


Lastly, in this quarter it is important to guard your circle. If there are people in your life who aren’t aligning with the life you see for yourself in 2019 then don’t keep that energy around you any longer. It’ll only weigh you down and slow down your progress.


In these photos I’m stepping into this quarter wearing a puff sleeve top from The Kemist, a House of CB skirt (super stretch and fits over all this booty), Steve Madden sandals, a Ferragamo purse, Chloé shades, and my favorite bundles from Luxury Hair Closet which keep me looking fab!

Photos by Marta Skovro

National Thrift Shop Day: My Goodwill Shopping Experience and Why You Should Give It A Try

Happy Friday! As summer is winding down I am enjoying every last bit of my final summer Friday’s in the office. Today not only do I get to celebrate Friday, but I’m celebrating National Thrift Shop Day with Goodwill. I’ve never been big on thrifting because I don’t have patience for it, but I gave it a try and I think it’s going to be a new hobby of mine. 


I’m a big fan of statement picks because it pretty much seals the deal on the outfit. I found this crushed velvet button down for $6— that’s cheaper than my daily green smoothie! I paired it with cut-off denim shorts, Stuart Weitzman sandals, and a Fendi clutch. It made for the perfect hi-low ensemble. During my shopping I saw so many bomb tops like this including an ASOS blazer that I wanted so bad, but it was too small. But, no worries because this top was all I needed and more. 


One thing I was worried about during thrifting was finding clothes that would be a good fit because I’m very small at the top compared to my bottom half. Well your girl has been in the gym and I came across a pair of Lucky Brand jeans that fit me PEFFECT. The price tag said $12, but the register said $6 so I asked no questions! I also love a good belt, so when I found this Alice & Olivia belt at Goodwill I couldn’t leave it. It was $30, but it can go with so much. I added yellow for a pop of color and it looked just as stylish at it would if I shopped at a department store. 


So, why Goodwill? When you donate to and shop at Goodwill, you are also doing good for your  community and neighbors in need. I don’t know about you, but I’m never too good to give back to my community. Goodwill uses more than 87 perfect of it’s collective revenue to create jobs, training, and education opportunities in local communities around the world. 

I’m all for saving coin and Goodwill definitely helped me do that this National Thrift Shop Day. So whether you’re gearing up for Back to School and need some stylish looks or if you are preparing for my personal favorite season, fall, head to your local Goodwill to help the community and to slay on a budget. 


This post is sponsored by Goodwill Industries International. 

Why Work Ethic Conquers All And How Beyoncé's Can Be An Inspiration To Us All

Happy Monday! This topic has been sitting heavy on my heart and frequently coming up in my daily conversations, so when Beyoncé dropped 'Everything Is Love' with Jay this weekend I decided to just share my thoughts about it. What is it? Work Ethic. We hear about having a strong work ethic all the time, but let me tell you why it's important. 

Someone will always be more talented and/or have more skills than you, but if you have a strong work ethic and outwork everyone around you, THAT wins! Skills can be taught, work ethic is self-determined.


Why did Beyoncé encourage me to share this? Saturday afternoon as I danced and had the time of my life (for once) at a Brooklyn day party, I scrolled Instagram and saw that Beyoncé and Jay Z dropped a "surprise" album. I say "surprise" because we all honestly knew it was coming, right? 

Beyoncé continues to have a work ethic that is unmatched. She tours the world and thoroughly entertains, puts out music, is an active philanthropist, and is a mom to 3 at the same time. Sure, lots of women have a lot of responsibilities, but her ability to thrive and stay hungry for higher success 20 years+ in the game ignites a fire in me like I've never felt before. 

work eth·ic
wərk ˈeTHik/
the principle that hard work is intrinsically virtuous or worthy of reward.

We should all strive to have a work ethic that is so unmatched in our respective industries that we are constantly working to beat our last move, our last project, our last anything. It's easy to be discouraged while working towards the goal and I get that, but with a solid work ethic you can work through the discouragement. Show up. Be consistent. Do the work. Stay determined. No one will ever take that from you and it will get you very far. 


We always tell ourselves, "You have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé," but the truth is if you aren't willing to give your passion your all, those hours mean nothing. For whoever needs that extra push or boost this week, know that staying focused on your goals and consistently pouring your all into your work, having a positive attitude, and working towards the next step will always keep you 10 steps ahead. 

I hope you have an amazing week! Yesterday to brunch I wore this puff shoulder top from The Kemist Store, BooHoo shorts, and Jeffrey Campbell sandals. I'm obsessed with this top and if it weren't heating up quickly in New York I'd be wearing it once a week, but I'll just let it sit in the closet until it becomes my fall staple once October rolls around. 


Asia Milia 

The Second Half of 2018: Locking In and Not Allowing Yourself to Leave This Year the Same Way You Entered

Happy June!! 

I haven't updated my site with a piece in months, and trust me I'm not happy about it. But, today I'm back and we're talking all about applying pressure on ourselves and our goals to end the second half of this year strong. In other words we should all be, "..on go like we don't see no stoplights.." as Cardi B would say. 



We have just entered June, the second half of the year believe it or not. This year is flying right? Personally this year has been very transformative for me, mostly in my career, hence why I've been missing on my blog. But, this isn't about me! I want it to be about you. How can you push yourself to make the next 6 months greater than great? 

I’m on go like I don’t see no stop lights
— Cardi B

Start here. Remember those goals you wrote down and said you would accomplish when January 1st hit? Pick that list back up. And if you didn't write a list, pick up a pen and get to writing. Statistics show that people who right down their SMART goals (I'll write a separate post on these types of goals) have an 80% higher success rate of achieving them. We all want to be successful while walking in our purpose right? 

Go back to what you so eagerly wanted to focus on when January 1st hit. If you've lost sight of that goal now is the time to refocus. You've got 6 brand new months until 2019. Measure your goals and evaluate how you will make it happen. 

For me the second half of the year always kicks a different type of hustle in me. This year it almost seems as if it's an epiphany. I'm questioning what I got done, what I need to get done, etc. Yes, summer is a time to turn up, travel, have fun, and life your best life –trust me I'll be doing all the above. But, it's also a time to lock in so we're not crashing everything in the last 2 months of the year and looking back wondering what was done. 

Goals don't care about seasons. The work has to be put in.

In other news, I will be posting my looks again. Summer style is in full swing. Yesterday I spent the day in the city celebrating success and enjoying my last few days off wearing an Lavish Alice blazer romper from ASOS. Love it?! Get one here and show me how you rock yours! It has the classiness of a blazer and the comfortability of shorts and a one-piece so it was perfect for me. I'll be back this week with a recap of Costa Rica! 


Asia Milia 


I Discovered I’m a Workaholic— Does A Balance Exist?

This piece has been sitting on my heart for a little over two month, but due to work (oh, the irony!), I haven’t been able to write it up. It came to me when one of my best friend’s Marshea was in town to celebrate Tolani’s (another best friend) birthday. We hit the streets and were ready for some much needed girl time that we barely ever get due to our schedules and the distance between us. After spending the day at the Louis Vuitton exhibit, going out to lunch and ending the night at a hookah lounge I realized I was on my phone a lot. Not because I didn’t care about what we were doing, but I was constantly searching for content for Fashion Bomb Kids, I was constantly checking my e-mails, Fashion Bomb Daily group chat, etc.


They didn’t say anything then, but a few weeks later before I left for vacation I text them with a sudden realization. “Guys, I think I’m a workaholic,” I said with some sadness. I was on a flight to Mexico writing emails, setting meetings for when I came back, writing articles, doing transcriptions, filling out applications— I was doing it all with my couple of hours of wi-fi on the plane. I had to stop for a second and ask myself why I couldn’t just chill?



When I said this to them, they were completely real with me (as they always are) and I appreciated that. “You need to learn how to balance and differentiate [because] it gets annoying for friends you’re supposed to be having fun with,” Tolani said, while Marshea followed up in saying, “Yea even when we’re not with you we don't wanna hear that shit all day”. They were right. In a social media driven generation where all we see is the glamorization of working hard 24/7, it’s not realistic to have a strong work ethic, but not be mentally balanced.

I am a natural born hustler so my career goals and having a strong work ethic will always be at the top of my list, however so will balance.

I made it my duty to not do work as best as I could while I was on vacation and I pretty much succeeded to the best of my ability. I say all this to say, work hard, be hungry, be ambitious and work your ass off for what you want, but also don’t forget about the people that keep you grounded. There’s weeks I barely talk to my mom because I’m in and out the house and when I’m home I am so honed in on an assignment or reading something that I can barely have a 5 minute conversation. What fair is that to the people who love me most?

Best believe I am a natural born hustler so my career goals and having a strong work ethic will always be at the top of my list, however so will balance. Yours should too. Even if being a ‘workaholic’ isn’t an issue for you, find what you may be giving too much of in your life and find ways to cut back and learn a balance for your own personal health.


You guys know I’m all about getting to the bag, however I am also all about maintaining a healthy mindset and overworking myself isn’t the answer. Outworking those around me is a goal, but not overworking myself and there is a HUGE difference between the two.

In essence – focus, work hard, and give your all, but also remember to balance and give to the other parts of your life as much as you do your career if you truly want to flourish as a whole being.



Your favorite girl boss 


Top: Forever 21 

Belt: Top Shop (Sold Out)

Skirt: Zara (In Store)

Booties: Steve Madden 

The Best Advice I Got in 2017 From Industry Moguls, Friends, Myself and More!

Hey, hey!

Can you believe it's the last Friday of 2017? Wow is all I can say. It's been such an amazing year for me and today I'm reflecting on all of the great blessings that have fell into my lap as a result of my grind. In addition to the opportunities that have came out of this year, I've gotten a lot of amazing advice that I've applied to my life and plan to apply even more in 2018. 

It's only right that I share the knowledge, so to end the year off on the right note I wanted to share the top 7 pieces of advice I got from fashion industry moguls and mentors in my life. I hope these sit with you just as well as they continue to sit with me. 

1. Be Specific when setting your goals -Claire Sulmers (Editor-In-Chief Fashion Bomb Daily)

I think this was the best advice I've heard all year, Claire stressed that when you set goals don't be vague. Say exactly how you picture your life, the amount of money you see yourself with, the car you want to drive, the house you want to live in. Be specific in your vision and it'll lead you down the clearest path to achieve those goals. 


2. Just show up -Laura Brown (Editor In Chief InStyle Magazine)

Most of you know I work with Laura and her assistant as my 9-5 job, and one perk is that I get to get advice from the head boss! One thing I've heard Laura say over and over again is just show up! I've applied this to life—sometimes I'm super tired and don't want to drag myself to an event and I hear "Show Up" in the back of my head. Whatever it is, just show up you don't know what may happen that can change your life or who you can meet that can change your life. Show up and let your life do the talking.

3. Sometimes it's the more menial things that get you furthest -Laura Brown

Another Laura hit— "get the lunch." I remember the first time I heard her say that. It was my first week at InStyle and she had a chat at Barnes & Noble for people to come ask her questions. She told the crowd that the more menial things is sometimes what gets you in good with the bossget the lunch. While getting the lunch can be a symbol for other things in other industries, I do actually get the lunch every single day. But, what Laura is saying is do the dirty work, do the not so fun things and the fun will gravitate towards you. 


4. If you wait for the right time to start you'll be waiting forever, the right time never comes -Cocktails With Claire panelist

I can't remember exactly who said this, but I do remember that it resonated with me. He said the time will never be right, and if you keep waiting it'll never come. Go for it! Apply that to whatever it is you need to in 2018. The right time will never come, you'll always need more of something, just do it! 

5. If you don't ask you won't get it.

This has actually been repeated to me so many times I can't even label it with a name. I've had mentors and friends instill in my head that no one can read your mind, you must speak up and ask for what you want. This year, I put my pride aside and simply asked for what I wanted and I got most of it, if not all. Don't be afraid to ask. Put your fear and your pride aside if you want to reach the next level of success. 


6. If you're thinking twice about doing something that'll be beneficial to you, do it! -Asia Milia

Is it crazy that I'm quoting myself? I hope not! I had to tell myself this in order to make a huge decision this year. When I took that trip to NOLA all alone, I thought twice so many times. At the end of the day, if something is going to be beneficial to you and bring opportunity book the flight, figure it out and have fun. It was the best decision I made all 2017 and I don't regret it at all. 

7. If you were there, you were supposed to be there -Audrey

One of my blogger friends, Audrey woke me up with this piece of advice. I was going on and on about how I was at the Phillip Plein fashion show, which is one of the biggest shows of NYFW and it is a star-studded occasion. I remember saying I felt like I shouldn't be there and she reassured me. I never doubted myself in a room again. If you're amongst celebs or industry moguls and you have a seat at the table you're supposed to be there and don't doubt yourself. 


I hope you all had an amazing year, I really did and I thank you for your support and following my journey. I wish you a happy and healthy 2018 and I pray that the wins that you've worked for and the seeds you've planted fully blossom in the new year ahead of us. 

Now, I'm off to turn up with my best friends for NYE weekend! 



Asia Milia 

I'm wearing a BooHoo coat, ASOS belt, Fashion Nova pants-similar  (Use code 'XOASIAXO' for $$ off), and Steve Madden booties 

Photos by Jennelle Gordon

Be Extra, Stand Out, Make Statements

Happy Monday! 

It's my last day working for 2017—well, it's my last day in the InStyle office for 2017 because we know the grind never stops. So, today I reflect. As most of you know, last week was an amazing week for me, as my story was the lead article on It was about faux fur and what it means to me, how I originally wore it to cover up insecurities and how it is not an extra confidence booster for me. My new fur coat from Red Factory Boutique that I am wearing in these photos sparked something else into me I wanted to share. 


The first time I wore it I got so many compliments, and I also got the "You're so extra Asia, but I love it," comments. And, my response was and always is, "Yes, I'm extra af because why not?" 

It also made me realize that being extra is deeper than the clothes you wear, you have to be extra in life. You must show out and go the extra mile in life because doing the bare minimum will limit you. I know I give this advice all the time, but I truly mean it, you HAVE to be extra. Everything I've accomplished thus far in my career was from me stepping outside of what was asked of me and doing more.


Think about it— if everyone around you is doing just enough wouldn't you stand out by going the extra mile that requires more effort? Some people think that wearing heels in a room full of flats will make them stand out, others may feel that if they have a beat face they'll stand out. But, the reality is while all of that is true you have to think outside of the box.


When I say be extra I mean work while everyone else sleeps, show up early, stay late, do 5x's more than what's asked of you. Be exceptional and outstanding. All of these "extra" things will contribute to your success in the long run, I promise. Still wear your heels and beat your face, but remember that the extra credit work you put in behind the scenes is what will speak even louder than your physical attributes. 


Happy Holidays, girl bosses! 


Asia Milia

I'm wearing a Red Factory coat (Thanks to the girl boss who runs the show over there) and Aldo thigh highs


Photos by Jennelle Gordon

The Win Behind the L You're Afraid to Take

Happy hump day! Mentally I didn't have the best week last week and unfortunately that energy led into this week, which I can blame no one but myself for. But, I'm not here to spread negative energy, I'm here to pull something out of it. 


I saw a post surfacing Instagram a few months ago that is resonating with me now more than ever. It read, "Your big win might be tucked behind that L you're too scared to take." A word! As the new year approaches I'm sure many of you like myself have big goals you want to accomplish and although you may be preparing for it, are you ready for it? 


I'll break it down some more. We may think we're ready for that big win and think that the obstacles that may come our way to get to that win will be easy. They won't. You may have to face an L and take a loss that you've been holding onto in order to receive that blessing. We often prepare ourselves so much for something big and push what will REALLY prepare us to the back burner. Whether that loss is letting go of something, someone or any situation that you're attached to. 


It might be a scary feeling, but success isn't born from fear. Take the L, and wait for that win. It's a harsh reality, one that I'm facing head on everyday because in the bottom of my heart I think I know what that L is for me. So, today dig deep and think on what it may be for you. Identify it, release it, and become the person that's ready for your big win. It may feel wrong now, but all the right's will fall into place. 


Asia Milia 


In these photos I am wearing a Forever 21 cropped turtle neck (sold out) and fur stole along with H&M faux leather pants (in love with them)

Photos by Jennelle Gordon

Brighten Up Your Winter With Your Style

Happy Friday! 

It's almost the weekend and Thanksgiving is a few days. Are you guys ready to stuff your face? I know I am, not! As the holidays quickly approach, the temperatures are quickly falling. While I'm a lover of the cold weather, I also do like to hold onto one style from the summertime—colors! 


Fashion rules upset me. You can wear white all year round and you can wear the brightest colors whenever you want. I opted to wear these bright blue wide leg pants because they're bold and intense with color. Who only wants to standout in the summer? I believe in making statements (as you guys know) and these pants are just that. 


This fur stole has been a favorite of mine since I brought it last winter, and surprisingly they brought it back this season so grab yours! Not only is it warm, but it has so many colors in it with a black base, which allows me to pair it with a lot. This look can easily be a work to drinks outfit (as it is for me). It was originally my Cocktails with Claire look until I found out I had to wear all black because I'm clearly always in work mode. 


I hope you all go forth and enjoy your weekend! I have all of next week off so I plan to enjoy myself, workout all I can, and make it to some places that I haven't visited yet including the Louis Vuitton exhibit. 


I'll leave you with 3 things from this look — Be Bold. Break Rules. Be Happy. That's what this look inspires me to do. I'm at such a positive place in my life and only happy vibes are accepted, so I am sending you all of mine! Have an amazing weekend, girl bosses.


Asia Milia 

P.S. How are you guys liking this hair on me? I love it. I got it from Silk Indian Hair. It's my first lace closure and I must say I'm very impressed. It's soft and manageable for my on-the-go lifestyle. If you shop with them and use code FALL20 you'll receive 20% off of 2 bundles or more! Grab them up! What style should I do next? My birthday is in less than 2 months and I'll be on vacation so I'll need to style this hair cute! 



Pants H&M (Sold Out) - Different color

Faux fur stole Forever 21 

Photos by Jennelle Gordon

The Final 60: How October Prepared Me To Enter A Season of Wins

Girl bosses! Are you ready?! We are in the final stretch- 60 days left of 2017. It's crunch time! After being challenged in October I am on a high and ready to take on November and December to conquer all of my goals before 2018. Remember I said I had a story for you all about some challenges? Well, here it is! 


When the month first started I was feeling very unchallenged, and I instantly had a challenge fall in my lap. I intern at InStyle for the Editor-In-Chief, Laura Brown and in the beginning of the month her assistant was going out of town and Laura was also supposed to be out. However, plans changed and she was now going to be in the office. God works in mysterious ways because the exact same day I was feeling unchallenged I came into work to find out that I would have to fill in for her assistant for a few days.


There were so many emotions that ran through my head— I was excited, yet nervous. I observe her everyday and I am her shadow, but it was something about being by myself with Laura that shook me up. Well, I did it and while it was extremely challenging it went amazing! I got so many compliments on how great of a job I did, including compliments from Laura. This experience truly taught me that if you ask for something it will come, it will come fast and you better be ready. I’ve been feeling better about a lot since I had to do that— I don’t know if it was because I really saw my work ethic from being challenged or what, but it really proved to me that being challenged pushes growth.

Therefore, entering the last 2 months of the year with this energy has me excited and eager. I am keeping the energy up because it will carry into the new year, read more about that here! I hope my story can remind you that if you are ever feeling unchallenged, or like you need to be pushed be ready for that push and don't look back because you aren't going there. We're moving onward, entering a season of wins that will be rewarding and fruitful. Don't take these last 60 days for granted!

Outfit details 

Top: Fashion Nova  (Similar)

Pants: Zara (Similar

Leather jacket: H&M (Similar)


My Favorite Print: Snakeskin Galore + What It Represents

Happy Monday! 

My life has been a complete roller coaster lately, more ups than downs, but still a major roller coaster. My 1 year anniversary of the blog was 10 days ago, October 6 and I didn't get to celebrate how I wanted to because I was too busy complaining and getting caught up in a perfect image. Needless to say, we're 16 days into October and everything is starting to make sense. I'm being challenged more (more on that later in the week), I'm complaining less, and I am being a lot more grateful of the blessings in my life. 


Being that all of these positive changes are reflecting on my life I wanted to do something a little different with this style post. Today, I'm connecting my style, particularly this outfit, to my current situation. Snakeskin has always been one of my favorite prints along with camo, but thinking beyond clothes when I think of snakes and their scales I think of me. Snakes are sneaky, yes, but no that's not me. I identify more with their skin– it's rough and camouflages easy. But, one unique thing about snakeskin is that it can remove it's skin to allow further growth. Shed, shed, shed! 


Aha! That's me, right now. Figuratively, of course. I am at a point in my life where I am growing into a purpose so big that sometimes my mind can not conceive what's next, but as I am growing I am shedding. I'm shedding negativity away from my thoughts, I'm shedding doubt, and I'm shedding whoever doesn't fit in with my purpose. Oh, I'm shedding weight, too! I'll do a fitness post in the weeks to come. 


The shedding process isn't easy either, but the more I shed the more I grow, similar to a snake. I hope you guys get my analogy. My advice to you on this Monday is to SHED, there are under 80 days left in 2017, don't go into 2018 with that same dead skin that you're using to camouflage into your fake happiness. Stay tuned for more posts this week! 


Asia Milia 

Your favorite Girl Boss 

I'm wearing a H&M jacket (Sold Out) – here's a matching skirt

A Zara skirt

Steve Madden shoes (Sold Out)–Similar 


Happy First Day of Fall!

I’m a winter baby so most people would probably think that’s my favorite season. Wrong! Like most fashion people, fall is my absolute favorite season, and today marks the start. The leaves change colors, the weather gets a tad bit chillier, and I can smell the holidays creeping around. I could care less about warm drinks and Halloween movies around this time of year, honestly. I’m more into changing my wardrobe over, finally wearing a face of makeup without feeling like I’m going to pass out and throwing on some thigh-high boots that can finally fit over these thick thighs.

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This is the first fall that I am back to living in New York which makes me really excited because for 4 years in Virginia I don’t think I ever got a legitimate fall. There’s something about fall in the city that I love, and I’m so ready to have my outfits scream “Fall In The City.” Chic furs (faux, of course until I’ve made it), different color leather jackets, booties— the list goes on and on. Just know that’s my vibe this whole season.


I felt like it was just right to throw on some fall colors for today. I very rarely wear all black ensembles, which is why I accessorized with this wide waist belt and fringe sandals. This belt might just be one of my new favorite accessories. Besides the fact that it is snatching my waist (I’ve also been going very hard in the gym), it is the perfect addition to a look that you’d like to add more depth too. The best part? It was only $19. Snag it here!

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These hints of burgundy have me crushing on fall colors. For anyone that doesn’t know, my favorite color changes every couple of months. For, summer it was yellow, but from this look alone I plan on making it burgundy or maybe even red. So, expect to see lots of that!

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Happy Autumn!


Asia Milia

What are you most excited about for this season? Tell me in the comments! 

Shoes: C Label

Belt: ASOS

Skirt (Similar): Express

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New York Fashion Week: The Lessons I Learned + Growth

That's a wrap! 7 days of non-stop fashion, runways, inspiration, events, and more! This New York Fashion Week has been so eye-opening for me, and I've been reflecting for the past couple of days. This is the third Fashion Week that I've actively participated in: working shows, attending shows and events. And, I must say the third time really is a charm. 


Last September Fashion Week I came up from school to work ESSENCE's Street Style Block Party and attended my first show. The next Fashion Week in February I had an amazing opportunity to work behind-the-scenes and be a venue assistant. This Fashion Week I don't know what I didn't do. In the office, I handled packages for my boss, who's Laura Brown, the editor-in-chief of InStyle in preparation for the shows. When I left I was collecting Street Style for Fashion Bomb Daily—read one of my pieces here. I also got to attend shows and I attended a plethora of events. I barely worked backstage like I did last season because of my lack of time. The one day I did try and work my body completely shut down. Here, I learned that it's ok to rest and not aways be on GO. 


One of the number one lessons I learned is to speak up. For one, I wouldn't be in the position I'm in now if I didn't constantly speak up and say what I wanted. But, in this case I really learned how important it is. I got to attend one of the hottest star-studded shows, Philipp Plein. Future, Nicki Minaj, Teyana Taylor and Yo Gotti are just a few A-listers who performed. When I was on my way out Fabulous walked right past me, and I said to myself, "Wow, I'm really here." At this event is where it hit me that I am exactly where I'm supposed to be.


Back to the message—I stress the importance of speaking up because I simply asked someone about attending this show in the office and they gave me their ticket. This is someone who I greet everyday and always crack a smile at, but this just goes to show you that the small things really do matter because she could've easily said she had no idea what was going on with the show. 

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I said to one of my friends the next day that there were so many celebs there that I felt like I shouldn't be there. She said, "If you were there, you were supposed to be there." This stuck with me, because I needed to hear that not only for Fashion Week, but for my life. I often doubt myself or ask myself how I end up so blessed with opportunity, and that was my response to it all. I'm supposed to be exactly where I am at. 

Thank you guys for continuously following my journey! 


Asia Milia 

I am wearing a Forever 21 kimono, H&M jeans, Zeleste Co. bag

Thank you to Zeleste for supplying me with all of my bags for Fashion Week! 

Photos by Micaela

A Seat At The Table: Recap of Seamore’s #InstaMeetUp Brunch

If I had to think of 3 words to describe what I felt this past weekend it would be: magical, inspired and high. I know high probably threw you way off. But, yes— HIGH! High off of the energy that surrounded me, inspired by the amazing women I met, and magical because my weekend was just that— magic! I attended a brunch Instagram and my friend/blogger Micaela put together. We were hosted by Seamore’s and the theme was #kindcomments, chosen by Instagram for their annual campaign.


We laughed, we drank, we ate, we shared kind comments with one another, and of course, we took pictures; lots of them. In the midst of New York Fashion Week this brunch was what I needed.


Every woman that attended this brunch inspired me in some way, shape or form. I sat to myself and said, “Wow, I really have a seat at this table.” To be amongst such amazing people I felt honored! There need to be more events like this. There was no gossip and there was no shade. We sipped mimosas, shared compliments, talked about goals, and everything in between.


I got to speak with some ladies more than others because we were sitting next to each other and one of those ladies was stylist and designer, Sky Conner. Something she said in our conversation that resonated with me was “Have ownership—Some people aren’t meant to be entrepreneurs, but whatever you do have ownership there.”  Checkpoint! Ownership. When you own something there’s a different meaning to your lifestyle. I say all this to say that I have 50 million things that I do, but my end goal is ownership and I want you all to think about that as well.


There were so many gems dropped. I wish I could share them all, but I hope you enjoy these pictures! Thank you Micaela for inviting me and allowing me to be so inspired. I was so honored to have a seat at the table. 


Stay tuned to my Fashion Week recap later this week!


Asia Milia

Your favorite Girl Boss



My D.C. Weekend: Brunch Attire

Let's talk about an amazing weekend—extended weekend if I must add. I spent the last couple of days in D.C. with my big sis (from Hampton) and it was amazing. We handled business and had our fun, too. I got amazing news Friday afternoon that I'll be working as a press escort next weekend at BET Black Girls Rock so I was in full celebratory mood from Friday until yesterday. A celebratory mood needs a slay to match, right? I attended brunch in this cute reworked shirt, a summer staple. 

As I told you guys in my last post, reworked shirts are my current obsession. Since there is a lot of detailing with the shirt denim shorts were the best option to pair with it. Everyone has been asking about this shirt. I got it from Forever 21 and the price was a steal! These shorts are also from Forever 21, but they're sold out. Here are some similar ones. These were such simple pieces, but I had fun dressing them up. 

These yellow shoes (which are my new faves) are probably the most comfortable sandal I own right now. They're Steve Madden and the sexy, strappy detailing is so fierce. This handheld Aldo bag had the most subtle hint of yellow in the attached scarf and went perfect with this look. The bag is sold out online, but it is still being sold in stores. It's the perfect summer bag that can be carried into fall. 

It rained on and off all day, but this was my brunch look for the weekend. I just got back to New York and it feels like fall. Yes, fall is my favorite season. But, no baby what are you doing?! This is my last week to myself before I start working, and as much as I would love to throw on a nice fall look I want the hot, warm summer weather so I can do summer things.

In honor of the in-between weather here in NYC and my love of reworked shirts, below you'll find my top favorite detailed blouses that you can rock in the summer and fall.